How age verification laws censor authors (and how to fight back)

Age verification laws have been spreading like wildfire, and now that Bluesky is requiring all U.K. users to verify their identity and the U.S. Supreme Court upheld a Texas law blocking minors from viewing porn, authors need to prepare.

Here in the States where I live, we are under a christofascist administration. Evil people have been passing laws targeting immigrants and transgender people, and if you’ve read Project 2025, you know what’s coming next. I believe this administration and other fascist lawmakers are using age verification and children’s safety to push their agenda. Don’t get me wrong—as an auntie of nine, of course I want kids to be safe online! But let’s leave that up to their parents to monitor, rather than instilling sweeping legislation that strips adults of privacy and access to information, and violates authors’ freedom of speech.

Age verification violates internet users’ privacy. If you use anonymous social media accounts to protect yourself from an abuser or simply because you want to talk about romance without your co-workers discovering your guilty pleasure, age verification will make it impossible to remain so. It can also be used to target authors, especially those writing romance, erotica, or LGBTQ+ characters. Fascists love labeling anything they don’t like as porn.

These laws are already effecting authors. If you live in the U.K. and use a pen name, you’ll have to provide photo ID, scan your face, or upload a pic of your bank card to continue using Bluesky starting July 25th. That’s only two weeks away.

There are a few things you can do.

I know I’ve been beating on this drum forever, but seriously, if you’re an author, you need your own website and email list. When you own your platform, it can’t be damaged by social media algorithms changing or new laws passing. Too many of us got dicknotized by Facebook/Instagram/Meta and the like; it’s time to take back control. Make sure you have a way of contacting your readers no matter what.

It’s only a matter of time before platforms like WordPress.com and SubStack require age verification, so if you post chapters or excerpts of your spicy romance on these platforms, you could be fined millions of dollars. From the Verge article I linked above:

The UK passed the Online Safety Act in 2023, which privacy advocates have warned will “lead to a much more censored, locked-down internet for British users.” Another part of the law is coming into force on July 25th, requiring sites and apps containing porn and harmful content to provide “highly effective age assurance.” Platforms that don’t comply with the new rules will face fines of up to £18 million ($24 million) or 10 percent of their worldwide revenue, whichever is higher.

These laws, as written, are insane. Who decides which content is “harmful”? And why are lawmakers hiding behind the very same children they won’t pass gun control laws to protect? I digress, but what the actual fuck?

I’ve been posting excerpts, chapters, and whole texts from my romance books for years. Right now I have this content on my website freely available to everyone, some locked to my email subscribers, and some locked to paid members. Under these laws, authors won’t be able to post such content on our own websites or social media without some sort of “highly effective age assurance” if someone deems it “harmful.”

I’ve long been against self-censorship on social media to bypass bots flagging and people pettily reporting posts. I believe that in this political climate, with a convicted rapist in the White House, it’s obscene to soften the word rape to “grape.” Rape is real. It happens to 1 in 3 real people, probably more. It happens to children. It happened to me. It should be shocking to hear. And from an artist’s perspective, it’s fucking silly to use symbols or emoji to write words like sex or cock. Yet everyone just rolled over and complied, adopting ridiculous terms like unalived instead of killed (another word that’s supposed to be shocking).

An age verification bill just passed in Ohio, despite criticism from the ACLU that the way it’s written is vague and could be weaponized. The “blue” state I live in, Connecticut, is considering passing a similar law. We all need to be pushing back on these laws. Call and write your senators and representatives, submit comments on bills being written, attend town halls. We cannot rollover.

You can choose to not verify your identity, but unfortunately this results in a restricted account. Bluesky won’t allow unverified users to send or receive DMs, or view content that is “adult appropriate.” Considering Bluesky flags stock photos as porn because a woman is showing her *gasp* stomach, and doesn’t answer DMs or appeal requests, I don’t have much faith.

I’d like to think I wouldn't do anything to land me back in prison, but when it comes to Olivia, all sense goes right out my head.She tosses her cigarette. “Just take me home and fuck me.”“Then get on the fucking bike.”elizabethbarone.com/a-disturbing…#BookSky #DarkRomance #SpicyRomance

Elizabeth Barone (@elizabethbarone.com) 2025-02-20T15:56:03.887Z

It’s only a matter of time before the other social media apps follow suit. Instagram has long been working on tools for age verification. I believe our best bet is sticking together and fighting these laws, while amending our own business plans and practices in preparation for a more restricted internet. Prepare for the worst, hope for the best, and fight like hell to protect privacy and information.

Do you think you will be affected by age verification laws? Let me know your thoughts in the comments, or send me an email! I’d love to hear what you make of all this.


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Yes, and… Let’s Stop Self-Censoring

For fuck’s sake, “sex” isn’t a bad word.

A few years ago, people started a trend of hate-reporting in the book/author community (similar to the one-star bombing of ye olde days). Basically, a petty person reports another post for abuse, getting it taken down while the social media person (or bot) reviews it. It devolved from there; with the explosive growth of social media during the pandemic and shutdowns, it was getting too much to manage, so companies started deploying AI to handle reports. If you’ve ever been in Facebook or Instagram jail, you know how poorly this system works.

Case in point: A couple weeks ago, one of my private accounts got banned from commenting. Whether I’m on my public persona (author) or personal accounts, I make it a point to always leave positive comments (or say nothing at all). So I truly have no idea what I said to upset the bots. (The comment that automatically got flagged and subsequently got me banned from commenting was, and I quote: “I swear the door only squeaks at night!” For context, the Reel was about how daytime sounds are a million times louder at night.) Over the years, I’ve heard a lot of similar stories akin to war tales about how various friends “got Zuck’d.”

We did this to ourselves.

To bypass the petty reports and bot flags, authors and readers alike started self-censoring. I get it; no one wants to deal with the hassle of a jailed account, especially if you get a high volume of engagement. Social media is now viewed as a currency nearly more valuable than actual money. It’s incredibly frustrating to watch your hard work get Zuck’d by AI that doesn’t understand context or nuance or sarcasm. The problem is, AI learns by what it consumes. Once we collectively started self-censoring, we unwittingly confirmed that “sex” is in fact a bad word.

As an artist, this really bugs me.

As a romance author, this enrages me.

Especially as a writer with a small social media following.

It was already challenging to get views on posts. It’s harder than ever now. I’ve noticed that when I post excerpts using any of the “dirty” words, I don’t get flagged, I’m just quietly stifled. Posts that perform well on one platform barely get 100 views on another. I refuse to self-censor to appease stupid AI or puritanical people. “Sex” is not a bad word. These platforms were created for adult use—most of them require users to be 14 years of age, and I know damn well my 14-year-old niece has heard worse than “seggs”—aimed at Millennials as we aged out of high school (RIP, MySpace). Facebook was originally made for college Millennials. TikTok, formerly known as musical.ly, was specifically created to share music (a form of art).

Books—yes, even romance, haters—are an art form. When authors and readers share excerpts, it’s a form of expression. When we self-censor (for example, turning “sex” into “seggs”), we’re stifling that expression. It also just looks ridiculous. (The irony of grown adults reading spicy romance while unable to bring themselves to type out the word “cock” doesn’t escape me.)

It’s gone so far, even Ariana Grande is self-censoring.

In her latest single, “Yes, And?”, she sings “say that shit with your chest and / be your own fucking best friend” in the uncensored version. In the same explicit version, she purposely bleeps out the word “dick” in the line “Why do you care so much whose dick I ride?”

This is an interesting choice since, just a few years ago, she released a song with the lyrics “wrist icicle, ride dick bicycle,” with the word “dick” loud and proud in both the explicit and radio-friendly versions of the song. It’s a sudden pivot from someone whose entire discography revolves around fiercely proud sexuality and lyrics to match.

It’s weird that Gen X and Millennials, who grew up flipping off the establishment, are now the biggest proponents of self-censorship, falling into line behind Gen Z (who seem overly sensitive to offending anyone, including AI).

I grew up in an era of fierce artistic expression. It kicked off in 1990 with the fight against Parental Advisory labels, continued with Prince changing his name to a symbol so that no one could own him, and escalated with gamers protesting the ESRB ratings brought on by the media blaming video games for violence. I so passionately believe in artistic freedom, I’m not even sure I love the wave of discreet romance covers. (Why are people ashamed to be reading romance and erotica in 2024? Ignore the haters and enjoy the smut!)

Maybe it’s because I’m an ’80s baby who cut my teeth on the ’90s no apologies attitude, but I just can’t get on board with self-censorship.

Fuck that.

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